Knowing much about emotional and social intelligence doesn’t give you social-emotional skills over night. Of course, learning begins with knowledge, but only by practice can we transform our knowledge into an active and efficient tool. To become a social and emotional skilled person is a tough task but, if you want to bring success into your life, you have to: be self-conscious, be very motivated, be able of self-regulation, be able to motivate others and be able of empathy. Even if we like it or not, our feelings conduct our behavior, but not in a rational, coherent and perceptible way. Read more »
Social-Emotional Skills
April 8th, 2009How to Have a Positive Attitude
March 19th, 2009When we talk about how to have a positive attitude, we firstly have in mind those tough, problematic and negative situations when we loose our calm, hopes and joy. But we have to understand that positive attitude must be a daily presence in our life, not only in bad contexts. Usually our daily mood isn’t bad, nor positive enough but neutral. We have to realize it and change our negative attitude and also neutral attitude into positive ones. The key is to keep a positive attitude despite the situation you are in, to maintain a positive thinking in the face of adversity, but also to cultivate it daily. Read more »
How Can Thinking About Happiness Help You Live Happy
January 23rd, 2009Thinking about happiness (including reading, conversations, meditations) can help you to live happy because it: 1) make you become aware about some facts and factors related to happiness; 2) help you find causes and sources of unhappiness and happiness; 3) help you understand the mechanics of happiness; 4) show you ways to solve problems that make you unhappy; 5) help you apply principles of happiness in your daily life. Read more »
Happiness, beyond Satisfaction or Not
November 23rd, 2008Happiness & Satisfaction. Imagine that you watch the earth from a distance above. What do you see? People running in circle. They leave home in the morning and get home in the night, or run in circle in their home from bed to desk and back. Why do they this? Surviving, satisfaction, happiness?! I was meditating if a millionaire is happier than the average (I mean financial) man and what I will do if I would be a millionaire over night. After a while, I concluded that the advantage of the rich gay over the financial average man reside only in a greater potential to episodic satisfy his senses, needs and wishes, but not a greater capacity at the attitudinal and mental or inner level. Read more »
Dealing with End of Life Issues
September 30th, 2008End of life is the only certainty we have and, in the same time, the subject we are frequently avoiding to discuss. We bravely try to “beat” death doing all kind of activities which give us satisfaction, fulfillment and the feeling of being in control of our own life.
Even the feeling of losing the love ones exists, it is “berried” deep inside us and we say to ourselves that they will not die in time to come or it can’t happen to them. In fact, we are refusing to face the reality acting as this “problem” will not affect me if I’m not thinking about it. Read more »
The Risk of Being Different
August 24th, 2008The concept of abnormality is not only relative but it’s often mixed up with being different. Every one of us needs to be accepted in a social group and, many times, we are willing to do major compromises to reach this goal. A frequent one is the tendency of constantly showing a similar behavior to the majority’s one to avoid the risk of being isolated. Read more »
Think for the Future
July 5th, 2008A minimum desire and tendency to control the actions and the persons around us exists in every one of us. This purpose becomes more difficult when it comes to control our mind. Human mind still remains a partially controlled “area”. I believe that more important than control is to permanently develop those essential cognitive skills for an efficient adjustment in the future. Read more »
Open Mind
June 28th, 2008“Human rights” is a concept promoted for a long time in many international documents. The national and international conflicts, political attitudes and human behaviors are drawing a tough reality for us to realize that we respect human rights only on paper. Theoretically speaking we all seem to know and to talk about human rights. We even feel offended by certain remarks regarding our questionable behavior. Read more »