Archive for September, 2006

Goals Attached, Non-Attached and Detached

Talking about goals setting and achievement, we can say that there are three kinds of people:

1. People attached to their goals

In this case the problem isn’t that they are too implied, motivated or active (all these are very good). The problem appears when they have to quit a goal (from diverse reasons) or when they fail to achieve a goal. When one of these two situations happens, they are in big trouble. If they fail to reach one single goal they feel their life is miserable. Many of them think so because they are perfectionists. They think their life isn’t in order if they miss one single goal.

2. People non-attached to their goals

This kind of people seems to be the most equilibrated, regarding how they relate to their goals. They aren’t non-motivated, non-implied or non-active as the term non-attached may suggest. They are effective people and when it comes to quit one goal or when they fail to reach one, they move on. They don’t spend their time thinking negative thoughts about their situation. (more…)

As You Think, So You Act

“It doesn’t make any difference whether what you face is something that affects your work, your personal relationships, your sense of security, your appraisal of self-worth, or your appearance – the way you think about your situation largely determines whether you will do anything about it and what you will do.” [Arthur Freeman]

Happiness and Goal Achievement

There is a general idea that the simple fact of achieving your goals automatically lead to happiness, also that the failure to achieve your goals instantly make you unhappy.

I agree that achieving what you want bring you joy, fulfillment and happiness, but it is for a short time. It isn’t long-term happiness.

Also, I agree that the failure to achieve what you want make you sad or unhappy, but is also for a short time.

All these situations depend on your style of perceiving and interpreting what happens in your life. Many times we lack a “panoramic view” over our life. (more…)