Archive for September, 2008

Dealing with End of Life Issues

End of life is the only certainty we have and, in the same time, the subject we are frequently avoiding to discuss. We bravely try to “beat” death doing all kind of activities which give us satisfaction, fulfillment and the feeling of being in control of our own life.

Even the feeling of losing the love ones exists, it is “berried” deep inside us and we say to ourselves that they will not die in time to come or it can’t happen to them. In fact, we are refusing to face the reality acting as this “problem” will not affect me if I’m not thinking about it.

We come back to the cruel reality when a close person is taking away from us. When it really happens, we ask over and over again “why him” no matter how old he/ she was. It doesn’t hurt less if the person is older. That’s the moment when we realize that we aren’t ready to deal with love one’s death as well as the fact that the feeling of self-control is an illusion.

So what it has to be done to be more ready to accept the death of someone close? The most important thing it will be to learn to talk open about it. It is known the effect of a spoken word. More we express our interior thoughts and fears more we will be able to accept the inevitable. Further more, by talking we can get rid of all the tensions inside us. (more…)