Thinking about happiness (including reading, conversations, meditations) can help you to live happy because it: 1) make you become aware about some facts and factors related to happiness; 2) help you find causes and sources of unhappiness and happiness; 3) help you understand the mechanics of happiness; 4) show you ways to solve problems that make you unhappy; 5) help you apply principles of happiness in your daily life.

To live happy you, I and all people have to understand and apply the following principles:
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Happiness & Satisfaction. Imagine that you watch the earth from a distance above. What do you see? People running in circle. They leave home in the morning and get home in the night, or run in circle in their home from bed to desk and back. Why do they this? Surviving, satisfaction, happiness?! I was meditating if a millionaire is happier than the average (I mean financial) man and what I will do if I would be a millionaire over night. After a while, I concluded that the advantage of the rich gay over the financial average man reside only in a greater potential to episodic satisfy his senses, needs and wishes, but not a greater capacity at the attitudinal and mental or inner level.

It is sure that happiness and complete frustration are at war. But this doesn’t mean that a complete satisfaction of our senses, needs and wishes assure you happiness. More, you need a little frustration in order to get into a state of happiness, because we humans feel happy only by difference from a lower state to an upper state. We get ordinary and bored even in the highest state of satisfaction.

Happiness & Senses. Let’s take into attention the senses: sight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell. From these all only sight and taste make the difference between the two (rich and average man). The rich man has the financial resources to travel where he wants and sees almost all beautiful places in the world and to eat daily all tasty food from allover the world. These things make a significant difference, but take into account that humans get bored with something which occur almost daily, even if this something is the best, because we feel happy only by difference from a lower state to an upper state. And if something is the best what is the next level if you want to feel a difference?! (more…)

End of life is the only certainty we have and, in the same time, the subject we are frequently avoiding to discuss. We bravely try to “beat” death doing all kind of activities which give us satisfaction, fulfillment and the feeling of being in control of our own life.

Even the feeling of losing the love ones exists, it is “berried” deep inside us and we say to ourselves that they will not die in time to come or it can’t happen to them. In fact, we are refusing to face the reality acting as this “problem” will not affect me if I’m not thinking about it.

We come back to the cruel reality when a close person is taking away from us. When it really happens, we ask over and over again “why him” no matter how old he/ she was. It doesn’t hurt less if the person is older. That’s the moment when we realize that we aren’t ready to deal with love one’s death as well as the fact that the feeling of self-control is an illusion.

So what it has to be done to be more ready to accept the death of someone close? The most important thing it will be to learn to talk open about it. It is known the effect of a spoken word. More we express our interior thoughts and fears more we will be able to accept the inevitable. Further more, by talking we can get rid of all the tensions inside us. (more…)