To Win Isn’t Everything

Recently, I watched an interesting and educative TV production: The Apprentice with Donald Trump (second series, 2004). I liked it very much not only for the show but mostly for the educative ideas I learned. For me this show was full of two kinds of educational ideas about:

  • how to run a business successfully;
  • how to live/survive;

I liked and agreed with almost all first kind of ideas. I’m in the learning stage of becoming an entrepreneur so I had a lot to learn from this show. There were plenty of ideas on how to start up and manage a successful business.

What I don’t liked or mostly disagreed with was many implicit and explicit ideas about how to live. First of all I totally disagreed with the animosity candidates created among them. Their daily life was full of gossip and grotesque selfishness. Their top value wasn’t honor or truth but pure and grotesque selfishness.

I agree that selfishness come from the natural instinct of survival and is good for us, but it must have a limit, otherwise we can’t call us humans anymore.

What I noticed is that the animosity created among candidates was triggered and fed by the wrong interpretation of this idea: To Win is Everything. This idea was the motto of the show.

I agree that “to win” is very important in our life, but this isn’t everything. It depends very much on how we interpret this saying. Let’s take an example:

In a tennis game, one player is totally focused on this: “I have to win the game” and he suffer for each point he lose. Even the joy of winning a point is shaded by the thoughts of not losing the next one. The second player is animated by prize, but he doesn’t think in terms of “have to” or “must”. He fully enjoys every point he wins and also accept with a light hearth each point he lose as a part of the reality of the game. Finally, the first player wins the game, but he is so tired and stressed that he can’t enjoy it.

Now, I ask myself and you the reader: Who is the real winner?

Enjoy your life’s games!